Climb UP the Slide

Why do we say “no” to our children all the time?  Why can’t we just let them be kids?

It’s because we’re worrying about the wrong things.  We’re worrying about what that other mom at the park thinks when our child wants to climb UP the slide.  We’re worrying about what our house looks like when we host a playdate. We’re worrying about keeping up with the Joneses.

What if, instead, we parent from a place that has real meaning.  A place that actually feels really good for us and our kids?

What if we stopped crying over spilled milk and let them make a mess?

What if we stopped worrying about the judgement of other Moms & let them play in the way that brings them joy.

When we let go of trying to control our children’s every move and instead, parent from a place of connection with our children, everything gets more peaceful. Our lives fill with joy.  Kids get to learn & explore with excitement rather than play with a cloud of “should’s” and “no’s” hanging over their heads. We get to watch in awe while these little humans absorb & interact with the world vs. hover over our children with the cloud of expectation hanging over our head.

Besides, just practically speaking, it’s SO hard, not to mention stressful  to enforce endless “no’s”.

What this looks like in our house…

Letting my daughter eat “baby cheese” (aka shredded cheese) while making a vacuum-required kind of mess.  Every. Single. Time.

Letting my son play get into the pantry and play with uncooked pasta while I cook dinner.

Letting them get wet almost everyday at their water table even though it means I’ll have to change their clothes again and creating more laundry.  And even when it means filling it with warm water, pot by pot, during the winter months.

Letting them play in my parked car when I’d rather be inside being “productive” (p.s. being in play with your kids is productive despite it often feeling otherwise.  Topic for another blog 😊)

Letting my kids climb up the slide while the mom next to me is simultaneously telling her kid that he can’t.

Letting them walk in the grocery store instead of ride in the cart even though it takes SO much longer.

This is not to say I don’t ever take the easier option or put my preference above my children’s.  But by being in deep connection with my children & honoring their needs, I cultivate more joy in our lives than could ever exist by saying” no” all the time.

Interested in how this could look in your family?  I would be honored to support you in finding your way with this.  Or just interested in this concept and want to have a convo about it?  Leave a comment below or send me a message. Here’s to climbing up the slide!